Apr 2008
Repairing a Broken Disposition
25 April 08
One strategy to understand what's wrong with a broken
machine is to go through a process of elimination.
First, identify those parts that are functioning fine
from those that may be causing some problems. Second,
test the 'possibly broken parts' one at a time until
you find out what may be the problem. Psychological
health can be similar. When we are 'broken' we may
find ourselves reacting to something more strongly
than we would have under 'normal' circumstances. If
you find yourself reacting strongly, it's time to
evaluate what else you may be reacting to. Have you
not been getting adequate sleep and nourishment? Have
you been under a lot of stress? Are the demands on
you greater than your available resources? Answering
yes to any one of these or similar questions may be
the reason behind being out of balance, or being
broken. Once you identify the underlying challenges,
try to correct them if they are under your control,
or seek some other healthy resolution if they are
not, and see if that facilitates improvement in your
overall disposition.
A Value Added Life
12 April 08 Filed in: Empowerment
Can't find the spring in your step? Lliving a
life that doesn't seem to be going anywhere?
Consider choosing to add something to your life that
would increase its value. Are you missing out in
relationships with depth, in your spiritual
connections, in giving to others or nurturing
yourself? Are you spending hours in a job that is
inconsistent with your personal goals or morals? The
business world speaks often of "value added" in terms
of production - at each stage of the production
process, they want to understand what value is added
at that particular time. Consider the same for your
life. Given where you are at in your life at this
very moment, what is the next piece of value that you
could add to your life? Make sure it's manageable and
able to be accomplished so that you can glean from
that value and move forward with a little more spring
in your step.
Happy Thoughts
04 April 08 Filed in: Empowerment
Did you know that thinking privately about happy
moments may not only provide additional boost to your
mood but also be a better way of staying happy than
writing about or analyzing these joys? In an
elegantly-designed study published in 2006 in the
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Dr.
Lyubomirsky and colleagues asked participants to
identify one of the happiest days they had ever
experienced, and then instructed them in one of the
following conditions: a) think about the positive
life experience and replay it over and over; b) think
about the positive life experience and analyze their
thoughts; c) write about the positive life experience
over and over as if rewinding and replaying a
cassette tape; or d) write about the positive life
experience and analyze the event. Each participant
was asked to engage in their particular condition for
15 minutes for 3 days, and then participants were
re-evaluated four weeks later. Can you guess what the
researchers found? They found that long-term positive
affect (continuing to feel happiness, joy, etc.) four
weeks later was most profound for condition A, where
participants thought about the positive life
experience, replaying it over and over
without analyzing it.
What does this mean for you? Thinking and reminiscing about your positive life events, your joys, your triumphs, your 'happy thoughts' on a regular basis can help sustain your good mood. Try to avoid analyzing the good event, just relish in it. Just like Peter Pan in the movie Hook, perhaps finding your happy thoughts will give you the strength to fly.
What does this mean for you? Thinking and reminiscing about your positive life events, your joys, your triumphs, your 'happy thoughts' on a regular basis can help sustain your good mood. Try to avoid analyzing the good event, just relish in it. Just like Peter Pan in the movie Hook, perhaps finding your happy thoughts will give you the strength to fly.